Loyalty is the willingness to make an investment or personal sacrifice to strengthen a relationship. Friendships & relationships all require loyalty. Lack of loyalty is one of the major causes of failure in every walk of life. The past few years I have experienced the constant face slap of non-loyalty by someone I gave a second chance & the other who is just a born bully; and have always been advised to just turn the other cheek. Both parties (not related) harbor resentful & jealous qualities. I have wasted time (and I hate admitting it) but in tears, as a result of backstabbing, hateful rumors, ill will by others towards me because of these parties and yet I have tried my absolute best to remain the better person by turning my head and mostly due to sacrifice because of other parties involved…see loyalty. Does this all bother me? Yes & it hurts! And yet, I do my best to feel the raw emotions & then move on & get over it as best I can. I have separated myself from them but unfortunately my situation is a bit delicate because these folks are in my world by social standings and a run in is going to happen from time to time. This past weekend, I finally cracked and was given an opportunity to give back to one of them. In passing, I said “hi wookie” (she's a rather hairy woman and not in the right places) and to be honest it felt GREAT! Woohoo!!!! I finally said something even if it was stupid! Then, I got in the car & I felt a bit like a disgrace because I stooped to their level….what I did was by definition that of a bully. Uug. I despise bullies and yet I sorta became one in a second. On the other hand, I'm human and not going to be too hard on myself because two hours prior to this, this person was yet again being a jerk towards me. You give & you get…I could have done so much worse with what goes on in my head. If that’s all they got, then they should consider themselves lucky. On the other hand…in this unfortunate case, I witnessed loyalty. This horrible woman is a back stabbing narcissistic personality who uses & then destroys for her own personal gain---and it is easier for her to be a jerk than to take the road less traveled and be accountable to herself and the people she claims lies towards & hurts. She always plays the victim through her lies. And yet she is protected by loyalty. Her husband may not know her whole truth because of her lies but he certainly has her back & is loyal no matter the consequences. His blindness is annoying, but I certainly respect his loyalty to his wife, that I get, even though he has lashed out against me on her behalf due to her manipulating lies.
I am happy to say though…throughout this whole ordeal, I too have loyalty in folks who speak up & sacrifice if need be because of what they believe in instead of over how it will affect them and that is a wonderful feeling! They love me & are loyal without any persuasion from me. Because you take a stand for someone who you care about, regardless if they are right or wrong. Of course, always let them know in private if they were wrong, but if you are loyal in front of the crowd, that’s called taking a stand in the truest form of loyalty. It's taking a stand really for anyone or anything that you totally believe in. Loyalty usually breeds loyalty back, but if you are wishy-washy, that's what you will get in return. What goes around - comes around, as it is the most important virtue. All other virtues lose their value if loyalty is missing. Love in all forms; be it to God, to another human being or for example to nature or to fulfill a task, loses their value if loyalty is missing. Loyalty is the same as faithfulness. If a person has faithfulness, this person will live in a good sense. For me, it is a mark of my character. If you know me, then you know I have your back & am passionately loyal for what I believe in…no questions asked. I need no persuasion, it comes naturally. I’m not saying I’ve never been wrong….if anything…these miserable people I speak of, I can honestly tell you I was loyal to them when they had the wool over me so to speak, and at least I can live with my self knowing I was. Because we all are dependent on one another, it’s the loyalty which acts as a bridge. It is the weak that try only to bring the strong down and with the great company of my loyal counterparts, this strong girl will continue on being that force that the weak is so threatened by.
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