I've been hearing a lot from woman as of lately whom are not feeling too confident in their relationships, so maybe I can provide a bit of vice in hopes that it can help some ladies out, so here we go. Are you finding yourself working so hard to get a relationship and or keep it going? Depending On Him To Feel Good Always Backfires. When you are sensitive and insecure around men and are constantly monitoring what you say or do around them. Men can actually feel this tension. It’s like a puppy - watching for hand signals from his master so you know what to do. Yuk, unattractive, after all you should be roaring like the sexy lioness you are! The good feelings you may be so desperate to have from a man aren’t possible if you’re not feeling good about yourself to begin with. Let me save you a lot of time and pain by sharing a powerful Relationship Tool: " I Am All That"
Imagine that your attractiveness is boundless, your eyes are magnets, your heart is an open pool of gold that man wants to dive into, and your body (no matter what you think) is a lush place that man longs for, feels awestruck just thinking about getting close to, and yet feels safe within (this goes for woman married, single, & dating). If you are not already a confident woman with self awareness and knows this is already what your man see's, then really try and feel that's what he sees, thinks and feels. “He’ll want to know what it is that makes you feel so confident, and he’ll want to get in on your “I'm all that!” When any doubts, fears, and negative thoughts come up, simply tell them to step aside. Paint this picture of boundless attractiveness for yourself right now, this moment, and keep it going all day and night, no matter what happens. Once this picture is in your mind, and the good feelings it brings are in your heart and body, you'll notice something amazing happening. When you're in the market, at the drugstore, walking down the street, and waiting in line at the coffee house - you will begin to experience yourself as a magnet for men. Once you start practicing this Tool - and I mean make it a habit every day - you'll find that your love life takes a huge leap in the right direction. Why? Because you have created the very feelings within you that you have so desperately tried to get from a man. And that is very empowering - not to mention extremely attractive. Practicing this Tool, and mastering it, is the first step to feeling so good and so at ease within yourself that your man will literally be running to be by your side. He’ll want to know what it is that makes you feel so confident, and want to get in on your "I'm all that!”
This doesn't mean that you pretend you don't like a man - not at all. On the contrary, a man needs to know you like him, but - and here's the clincher - he needs to know that you value your own life. Putting a man's needs ahead of your own and taking a backseat to what you want is not the key to a man's heart. If you do this you will learn that not making yourself, and your life, your number one priority is actually getting in the way of the romance you so desperately want. If a man gets the feeling you're making him more important than you, he loses interest.
Be a woman who has a lot of interesting things going on all the time and your man will just want to naturally be around you. I assure you, your man will always lavish you with attention and affection. And the best part you don't have to manipulate or “pretend” to be something other than your genuine, feminine self to inspire this kind of love from a man.
I know this goes against everything we women have been taught, but it's true. Men don't fall in love with us because of how much we do for them. They fall head over heels because of how they feel when we allow them to be useful to us and do for us. They fall in love when they have to invest in us and work for our love.
In the classical Greek myths and in stories and legends that live on today in art, music and movies - the Sirens are creatures - half woman and half animal who live on a beautiful, flower-filled island off the coast of what’s now Italy. The Sirens play and sing on the island, and the beauty of their voices is mesmerizing to anyone who hears. And of course, the only ones who hear are the men sailing past the Siren’s island. In the myth, the men are so enraptured by the Siren’s song that they jump off their boats, swim for the island, let their boats crash on the rocks, and climb up to be with the Sirens. What the stories say to us now, if we read them and listen to them, is that a woman has a pull on a man - a “hold” over him - so strong that he would risk everything - his life - to be with her. What we can hear in the stories is that ALL women have this power. All women have a Siren Song. All women have the power to hypnotically attract a man. You are NOT the exception! Being a Siren is your birthright as a woman, and we have all been taught to ignore our Siren within.
All you need to do is understand that power you have, believe in it, and know HOW to USE it. ANY woman can become a Siren! You just need to know how to tap into that Siren Power and share it with a man so he can be “caught by your song” and “drawn to your island…” There is a real way to attract men like a magnet - even the man you’re with right now who seems fatally disinterested and cold - WITHOUT worrying about all the things we women have been TAUGHT to worry about, and using the strengths and qualities you ALREADY HAVE.
Know your special love within before focusing on him. Look out a window and imagine what it is that you love (aside from him). Imagine the love in your heart - all that energy and sweetness and passion - going out the window to that thing you love. This might be painting, or the beach, or giving to those less fortunate, or helping people in your special, unique way. Really contemplate what it is that you love about this thing, how it has enriched your life, and what it is that makes it special to you. Notice how it makes you feel centered and with a sense of purpose. Suddenly, you'll realize that there's a lot more to your life than this one man, and you will feel your personal power flooding back to you. Instantly re-shifting your focus like this works like magic. This creates resilience of self- power that attracts a man’s heart to your heart. The truth is once you really discover who you are & love yourself, you’ll know on your own why “I am all that” without having to remind your self and that is sexy!
What makes a man fall in love? A man falls in love with you because he knows he can be himself around you. He falls in love with you because he feels SAFE expressing his innermost, private feelings with you. He feels this way because he knows that you can handle your feelings. He can sense that. And because he senses that at the most unconscious level, he starts to long for your company, for your touch, for your affection. He may not even know why he feels this way. All he knows is that there's something special about you that he doesn't feel with any other woman in his life. He's in love with YOU and that is BLISS!
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